Jessicasa

Increased Sex Drive With Narcolepsy

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I'm apologize if this is considered as an "old thread" but I'm going to reply anyway.

 

Jessicasa, please read this as it may be cruicial for you:

 

I have been having this issue my whole life and I cannot stand when people say "you're crazy, you're lucky to have a high sex drive" I explode of anger when I hear that, cause anyone who had this animal like super sex drive would never ever say something as stupid and shallow.

 

Back to the point - I've always felt that I might have some form of narcolepsy although I never did a sleep study yet (because of many obstacles), then finally I was diagnosed "Bipolar Not Otherwise Specified" around March of this year.
After some SSRIs, some Anticonvulsants, and other stuff unsuccessfully treating my hypersexuality, I've finally took bipolar meds (Aripiprazole AKA Abilify) and my sex drive FINALLY for the first time in such a long time have became low and fully controlable.

Now what with the narcolepsy part? Well from my looong experience of researching psychiatry I have come to realize that Narcolepsy and Bipolar are not that far apart at all (in my opinion I'd go as far as saying that Bipolar is a subtype of Narcolpsy or the other way around). Both have sleep related problems, circadian rhytm seems to be a key factor, all these symptoms - daytime sleepiness, finally feeling a bit better late at night, depression, anxiety, depersonalization, derealization....it all screams out "some kind of circadian rhythm problem".

Did Abilify help my daytime sleepiness, nope! But Concerta (used for ADHD) did. So now, the question remains do I have Bipolar with Narcolpsy, or my theory of narcolepsy and bipolar is correct.

In other words I need to do a sleep study ASAP, and you need to do a psychiatrist evaluation, but, of course, only in case your sex drive really causes you huge problems like mine did, i.e. if it's really becoming uncontrollable.

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Honestly I think I have a higher sex drive than most and I think N is behind it.  The sleepier I am, the higher my sex drive is, and the less I feel I have control over it.  When I was first prescribed Adderall my sex drive plummeted, which was kinda nice because I finally felt "in control."  Prior to being medicated I really felt like I had no will power over anything.  I think the increase in sex drive in response to sleepiness may just be an unconscious mechanism to keep myself awake.

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I definitely cannot relate to the high sex drive issue but I have found that my sex drive has improved dramatically since I have been diagnosed and treating my narcolepsy. Totally makes sense that someone who gets ZERO delta wave sleep and has EDS wouldn't much feel like having sex.  Perhaps the trazodone is helping me reach N3 more than I realize.

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Jerking off in a sterilized cup isn't a difficult task at all. As a man, having a purposeful orgasm that isn't for pleasure and isn't with someone else is difficult. Also, the fear of finding out you're sterile would make it even worse. When you have anxiety, forget about being able to perform.

By doing the test, he has nothing to gain and everything to lose. Your relationship presumably was never the same after that because (from the way you worded your post) it would appear that you didn't care for his emotional needs concerning the issue. That's an enormous blow to a man's self esteem.

 

Wow, judge people much?  Expressing frustration now has nothing to do with what their relationship was like at the time.  Not to mention that he made her go through multiple tests, pelvic exam, having her fallopian tubes "blown," etc rather than taking five minutes to jerk off in a jar.  Talk about not "caring for [your partner's] needs."  I'd be pissed off looking back on that as well.

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It was obviously a knee "jerk" reaction by bodybuilder and he hasn't been a member for long enough to know much about me and read all my posts.

I will say that it is very hard to give emotionally when you haven't received ANY emotional support for a very long time. I should never have married a man whose mother doted on him and who thought I should be the one to take her place. I wanted a husband and partner...not a whining selfish son.

And that was all over 40 years ago and my hindsight is 20/20 and I can see it clearly in black and white.

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I apologize for coming across in such a judgemental way. I definitely could have worded my post better...to be honest I barely remember writing it and wish I had done so when I was more awake.

You're absolutely right, Ferret...it is very hard to give anything emotionally when you have gone so long without any emotional support yourself. That I can relate with very strongly. Narcolepsy (or IH) don't leave a lot of room for putting up with selfish crap from others.

I have some issues similar to your husband, and I guess your post struck a personal nerve. I overreacted to it. I'm sorry.

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I apologize for coming across in such a judgemental way. I definitely could have worded my post better...to be honest I barely remember writing it and wish I had done so when I was more awake.

You're absolutely right, Ferret...it is very hard to give anything emotionally when you have gone so long without any emotional support yourself. That I can relate with very strongly. Narcolepsy (or IH) don't leave a lot of room for putting up with selfish crap from others.

I have some issues similar to your husband, and I guess your post struck a personal nerve. I overreacted to it. I'm sorry.

 

Thank you so much for clarifying.  Many of us do the exact same thing when a post has hit a personal nerve -- lord knows, I have! -- but few people apologize.  Stick around and you'll find we're really a lovely bunch of human beings.  Well, most of us.  Ignore the spammers like "williamgug," above.   :rolleyes:

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My sex drive went from 0 to 100 basically overnight. It was at the same time that I started modafinil and quit fluoxetine. Being that fluoxetine takes 4-8 weeks to get out my system...I'm going to say that the increase in energy contributed heavily to my incerease in sex drive.

I can relate strongly with Ferret and sleepybodybuilder 's sentiments about not having anything left after supporting others, or just plain trying to get through life without nodding off!

I have often felt very angry at my husband for not understanding how exhausted I was and that I was annoyed that he was asking me to have sex, but annoyed that he was asking me to either wake-up, or stay awake longer and just how bloody miserable that was for me.

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