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I have a hard time reading books. I can't seem to get past a couple of pages without falling asleep. My husband reads all of the time and doesn't understand why I don't enjoy reading. My kids (12, 15) enjoy reading and are fast readers. But I would like to preview certain books before I give my kids permission to read them. But I can't ever finish the first chapter! Does anyone have any advise?

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First Idea: Stop previewing your children's books and giving or NOT giving permission to read them.

 

What kinds of dangerous information do you think they are going to be privy to? Oh no, your child is going to start learning something about the world and begin to think on their own! We can't have that. :D haha. 12 and 15 are great ages to begin looking inside yourself for answers as the teachers and adults around you are constantly telling you what to think. 

 

I am being slightly facetious, so don't take it too hard. Truthfully though, I really don't think your children will be getting a hold of any erotic literature any time soon. 

 

 

Second Idea: If there are audio books available then try listening to them while you do some kind of work. Sitting down is one of the absolute worst things for me. As soon as I stop moving it's lights out. 

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Haha, I realized that if I were going to wait until I read the books before letting them, they would never get to read anything! I did let them read the hunger games even though I knew there was a lot of killing in it. Another reason the previewing is important is because I homeschool them and I have to ask them questions about the books I assign them to read. So if I haven't read the book I can't make sure they are actually reading it! I should try audiobooks. Thanks!

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For me, I read when it is a time that I have the energy to do so. I don't read many books - but I do a lot of reading on the Internet. But it has to be an optimal time and environment if I'm going to read a book and don't want to start zoning out.

I also pause a lot to think about what I just read, connecting it to something i know or have experienced. Of to picture the settings or characters. This helps the reading to be active rather than inactive. I am not a fast reader - not because I can't read at a fast pace, but because I take the time to really think about what I'm reading.

Often if I'm online and I'm tired I will skim rather than read because otherwise I would start falling asleep while reading. I try to avoid reading and other less active activities when I'm tired (which is the majority of the time!) but it really depends on my level of tiredness at the time. I also crochet and if I try and crochet something when I'm too tired then I miscount my chains, stitches or doze off all together! I sometimes do better crocheting while watching a movie because my attention is split and it keeps my brain more active. I wish this worked with books but I generally find reading needs to be done in a relatively quiet environment. But put me in a library which is too noiseless and it will put me to sleep!! Lol.

But another thing I would recommend, besides trying to find an optimal strategy for reading, is spark notes or looking up the book online to find specific plot lines or questions you can ask about the book. Goodreads.com has a lot of discussions on books that may be helpful.

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Yeah Sparknotes it! 

 

If you want to find some quiz questions you can look on Quizlet too. They have a lot of Q & A type material for popular educational literature. 

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Something about reading off of a screen makes it easier, than reading a book. 

The words on paper can become exhausting or difficult to remain focused upon.

I've really probably only read a handful or two of actual paper books.

On a computer or pad/tablet device, it is much much more likely I'll manage to.

I read endlessly on the interweb; articles/forums/webpages, reddit!

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Me too! One of my sleep specialists said "There have been studies done that suggest that the radio waves and light frequency emitted from Computers, TVs, Laptops, Tablets, and Phones is very stimulating. People who view T.V. or Computer just before bed typically take longer to fall asleep."

 

Paraphrasing. This was a few years ago. 

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I hate it, but I have trouble reading too. My attention span blows, and I'll forget sometimes what I read yesterday and have to essentially review my previous chapters to recatch myself up. I feel like a useless TV drone now. I think some of it's N, but I blame our TV watching, facebook posting, reddit reading lifestyles equally.

 

Also, and I realize my opinion is crap because I'm not a parent, but I'll echo what 2Tired said about letting your kids discover the world at their own pace. Just in my personal experience as a kid, my parents shielded me from so much of the real world that it was a shock to the system when I left for college. I still have trouble coping with day to day tasks like shopping, paying bills, dealing with stress, etc. By helping me out and protecting me from pain as a kid, my parents (God bless 'em, I love 'em to death) really crippled me in some ways. The one thing my Dad did do really well though was the sex talk. My parents are fairly conservative Christians, not overbearing holy-rollers by a long shot, but still that's the core of their value system. So my Dad set me down when I was like 13 and basically gave me the skinny, and told me about various common "acts" I'd hear about and "He was like well, some people think X, and I think Y, but ultimately, it's up to you to search yourself to decide what is and what isn't right for you." At the time, I was mortified by what I just heard and tried to block it out, but looking back, I can't believe he manage to do that in such an even handed manner, especially considering he's fairly awkward himself and despite having very traditional views. I guess my own plans for my kids (if I ever decide to spawn, not sure if I want my decidely damaged DNA to continue) I think I'm going to try to engage them in discussions, tell them what I think and why I think that, and then just hope some of it sticks. Unless I have a daughter, then all her boyfriends get greated at the door with a shotgun and she goes to the prom with a padlock on the dress, haha. I think the reasons Dad's are so terrified for their daughters is because we know how teenage boys think, having once been one.

 

Wow, that turned into a huge derail, sorry about that lol.

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DeathRabbit, I do realize that your experience of being sheltered as a child and then shocked in college is not that uncommon. I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you have a good relationship with your parents now.

So, I know this can happen, However I don't think that is an excuse for Christian parents to throw out their moral compass and give up on guiding their children appropriately into adulthood. As Christian parents, of course my husband and I want to instill in them biblical values but we also want them to eventually choose this for themselves. We see it as laying a foundation. My children are very aware that there are differing views and lifestyles out there. Thanks for sharing your story. I do hear this scenario described by people often - especially when I mention that I homeschool my kids. I want to let you know that I do not discount it and I definitely take it into consideration as I am raising my kids.

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Nah, I love my parents always have. It's hard to fault somebody for helping you too much, ya know. I just think they were overprotective, and I never got to do anything for myself or by myself when I was a kid. I don't think I had a sleepover til like 14. My brother got the cool parents, I always jokingly tell them. He's 8 years younger and by that time they were like, eh, old brother turned out ok, younger one will turn out all right too and gave him a much longer rope, lol. I do call myself Christian, though some of my views are kind of, well, strange. And it's sometimes hard to keep up faith when you pray for so long to feel better, but there's no response. Someone needs to start a religion thread, maybe, although those can be dangerous sometimes, haha.

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I cant read more than a few pages I just fall asleep it does not matter a book or a computer screen, even in this forum I can barley read these posts 

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It's pretty hard for me to read long posts sometimes. On bad days, my tl;dr limit is like 3 sentences, :/

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i've read a lot of books.  reading for me is fatiguing but if a book is able to keep me in suspense like a good movie does eventually i finish it.  often i must re-read parts, like deathrabbit.

 

often when i wake up at night i utilize the fatigue caused for me by reading to get back to sleep.

 

i dig westerns and spy intrigue; done read all l'amour and kelton's work.  the best story i ever read is non-fiction.  it is pappilion by henri charriere.

 

the movie would need 10 hours to tell this man's incredible tale.  it is incredible, and a great read.

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I really like Sci-Fi, and have been wanting to explore Dan Simmons, more Philip K Dick, and Ray Bradbury, as well as Dune, but I just never feel like doing because I know it will be a struggle and I'll just end up hating myself for being stupid. I used to be an intellectual. I guess that's beyond me now.

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I read non fiction. Self help kinda stuff. Parenting books....books about homeschooling techniques.....I used to read a lot of books on Christian doctrine but I haven't read books of that nature in a while...educational but not always stimulating enough. It takes me weeks or even months to get through a book. i cannot read much at a time and i end up rereading paragraphs and even pages. My husband likes science fiction. Jack Vance, Orson Scott Card, Isaac Asimov. I am not very interested in fiction. to me it doesnt seem worth the effort. and reading for me is a huge effort. If i am going to expend the effort i want there to be a practical gain from it. My husband doesn't understand how I fall asleep so quickly from reading. He has tried reading to me. It turns out that listening to my husbands voice reading is very soothing and puts me out rather quickly. He got rather offended that I kept falling asleep. I tried to stay awake. I really did.

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I have a bunch of Barnes and Nobles gift cards, and I intend one day soon to use them to purchase an encyclopedia set and give myself an 18 month deadline to read it A-Z. Now that I'm feeling better, I'm realizing how rusty my sphere of knowledge has gotten. I forgot who Vasco DeGama was today for goodness sake!

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I used to be a History buff, at least Post New World history. DeGama was the guy who first made it from Europe (specifically Portugal) to India and back. Bartolemeu Dias was the one who had made it the farthest previously; he just rounded the tip of Africa, then chickened out and went home.

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Ok - an explorer. I remember now. I did teach a lesson a out him to my kids. I promise! It's a good thing I use curriculum because my brain isn't what it used to be!

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It doesn't help that I hang around people who could start their own Mensa club. I used to maybe be that smart, but it underscores how far I've fallen. I know one guy who speaks three languages including Latin, and knows Roman history so well, he can tell you what Caesar, Scipio or Pompe had for breakfast on a given day. Another, who just completed his master's in experimental particle physics and accepted an internship at Los Alamos. And a third, who can decipher anything in any language, if given a few hours. He even build his own languages for fun. So yeah, I feel outclassed. I'm just a lowly Computer Programmer who's forgotten most of what he knew, due to N and the fact that my job never demands sharp programming skills.

 

EDIT: Oh and I forgot the guy who started college at 15 and graduated with a dual major in philosophy and astrophysics by 20, who also knows Latin and actually attends a Latin mass.

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I read encyclopedias for fun ... But, then, I read pretty much anything that has words. I'll read the cereal box, if I'm having a bowl for breakfast! In fact, people at work are always trying to trip me up because I read while I'm walking down the hall. I generally end up reading several books a week.

 

Mostly, I read fiction ... pretty much anything but romance and westerns, neither of which I ever got into. Fantasy and Sci/Fi are my favorites, though, with alternate histories running a close third. The only non-fiction I generally read is astronomy/astrophysics-related, because I'm a geek, though there have been a few "dummies" books--like when we decided to get chickens.

 

Reading doesn't generally put me to sleep. My mother reads in bed, on her way to sleep, but I've never been able to. If I'm trying to get to sleep and I start reading, I'll never get there. I can use it to wake me up, though, like when I'm fighting off a sleep attack.

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I can usually only read paper books when the effects of my meds are still in full swing. I almost fell asleep at the library yesterday trying to read Economics books too.

I'm really grateful for this medicine though, I can stay awake during school again! Studying computer networking from a textbook is not exactly the most stimulating thing to do for 2 hours. 

 

One thing I do notice when I am tired reading is that I often comprehend the first few letters of a word and then my mind auto-fills the rest with something extremely out of context. I often have to re read sentences twice because I'm sure that what I just read isn't quite right. 

 

Like the above sentence might have read "...when I am tread reading..." or something else strange.

 

Also, when tired writing I often start a word, get half way through writing it, and then finish it with the end of the next word in the sentence. It doesn't happen when I text or type, just when I am writing tired haha. 

 

 

Anyone else have this problem? 

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