Posted 16 April 2013 - 08:56 PM
Posted 16 April 2013 - 10:03 PM
First Idea: Stop previewing your children's books and giving or NOT giving permission to read them.
What kinds of dangerous information do you think they are going to be privy to? Oh no, your child is going to start learning something about the world and begin to think on their own! We can't have that. haha. 12 and 15 are great ages to begin looking inside yourself for answers as the teachers and adults around you are constantly telling you what to think.
I am being slightly facetious, so don't take it too hard. Truthfully though, I really don't think your children will be getting a hold of any erotic literature any time soon.
Second Idea: If there are audio books available then try listening to them while you do some kind of work. Sitting down is one of the absolute worst things for me. As soon as I stop moving it's lights out.
Posted 16 April 2013 - 10:26 PM
Posted 17 April 2013 - 06:09 PM
I also pause a lot to think about what I just read, connecting it to something i know or have experienced. Of to picture the settings or characters. This helps the reading to be active rather than inactive. I am not a fast reader - not because I can't read at a fast pace, but because I take the time to really think about what I'm reading.
Often if I'm online and I'm tired I will skim rather than read because otherwise I would start falling asleep while reading. I try to avoid reading and other less active activities when I'm tired (which is the majority of the time!) but it really depends on my level of tiredness at the time. I also crochet and if I try and crochet something when I'm too tired then I miscount my chains, stitches or doze off all together! I sometimes do better crocheting while watching a movie because my attention is split and it keeps my brain more active. I wish this worked with books but I generally find reading needs to be done in a relatively quiet environment. But put me in a library which is too noiseless and it will put me to sleep!! Lol.
But another thing I would recommend, besides trying to find an optimal strategy for reading, is spark notes or looking up the book online to find specific plot lines or questions you can ask about the book. Goodreads.com has a lot of discussions on books that may be helpful.
Posted 17 April 2013 - 07:21 PM
Yeah Sparknotes it!
If you want to find some quiz questions you can look on Quizlet too. They have a lot of Q & A type material for popular educational literature.
Posted 17 April 2013 - 08:07 PM
Something about reading off of a screen makes it easier, than reading a book.
The words on paper can become exhausting or difficult to remain focused upon.
I've really probably only read a handful or two of actual paper books.
On a computer or pad/tablet device, it is much much more likely I'll manage to.
I read endlessly on the interweb; articles/forums/webpages, reddit!
Posted 18 April 2013 - 10:18 PM
Me too! One of my sleep specialists said "There have been studies done that suggest that the radio waves and light frequency emitted from Computers, TVs, Laptops, Tablets, and Phones is very stimulating. People who view T.V. or Computer just before bed typically take longer to fall asleep."
Paraphrasing. This was a few years ago.
Posted 23 April 2013 - 06:09 PM
Posted 24 April 2013 - 11:06 AM
I hate it, but I have trouble reading too. My attention span blows, and I'll forget sometimes what I read yesterday and have to essentially review my previous chapters to recatch myself up. I feel like a useless TV drone now. I think some of it's N, but I blame our TV watching, facebook posting, reddit reading lifestyles equally.
Also, and I realize my opinion is crap because I'm not a parent, but I'll echo what 2Tired said about letting your kids discover the world at their own pace. Just in my personal experience as a kid, my parents shielded me from so much of the real world that it was a shock to the system when I left for college. I still have trouble coping with day to day tasks like shopping, paying bills, dealing with stress, etc. By helping me out and protecting me from pain as a kid, my parents (God bless 'em, I love 'em to death) really crippled me in some ways. The one thing my Dad did do really well though was the sex talk. My parents are fairly conservative Christians, not overbearing holy-rollers by a long shot, but still that's the core of their value system. So my Dad set me down when I was like 13 and basically gave me the skinny, and told me about various common "acts" I'd hear about and "He was like well, some people think X, and I think Y, but ultimately, it's up to you to search yourself to decide what is and what isn't right for you." At the time, I was mortified by what I just heard and tried to block it out, but looking back, I can't believe he manage to do that in such an even handed manner, especially considering he's fairly awkward himself and despite having very traditional views. I guess my own plans for my kids (if I ever decide to spawn, not sure if I want my decidely damaged DNA to continue) I think I'm going to try to engage them in discussions, tell them what I think and why I think that, and then just hope some of it sticks. Unless I have a daughter, then all her boyfriends get greated at the door with a shotgun and she goes to the prom with a padlock on the dress, haha. I think the reasons Dad's are so terrified for their daughters is because we know how teenage boys think, having once been one.
Wow, that turned into a huge derail, sorry about that lol.
Posted 24 April 2013 - 03:20 PM
So, I know this can happen, However I don't think that is an excuse for Christian parents to throw out their moral compass and give up on guiding their children appropriately into adulthood. As Christian parents, of course my husband and I want to instill in them biblical values but we also want them to eventually choose this for themselves. We see it as laying a foundation. My children are very aware that there are differing views and lifestyles out there. Thanks for sharing your story. I do hear this scenario described by people often - especially when I mention that I homeschool my kids. I want to let you know that I do not discount it and I definitely take it into consideration as I am raising my kids.
Posted 24 April 2013 - 03:26 PM
Nah, I love my parents always have. It's hard to fault somebody for helping you too much, ya know. I just think they were overprotective, and I never got to do anything for myself or by myself when I was a kid. I don't think I had a sleepover til like 14. My brother got the cool parents, I always jokingly tell them. He's 8 years younger and by that time they were like, eh, old brother turned out ok, younger one will turn out all right too and gave him a much longer rope, lol. I do call myself Christian, though some of my views are kind of, well, strange. And it's sometimes hard to keep up faith when you pray for so long to feel better, but there's no response. Someone needs to start a religion thread, maybe, although those can be dangerous sometimes, haha.
Posted 25 April 2013 - 09:25 AM
I cant read more than a few pages I just fall asleep it does not matter a book or a computer screen, even in this forum I can barley read these posts
Posted 25 April 2013 - 10:05 AM
It's pretty hard for me to read long posts sometimes. On bad days, my tl;dr limit is like 3 sentences, :/
Posted 25 April 2013 - 11:36 AM
i've read a lot of books. reading for me is fatiguing but if a book is able to keep me in suspense like a good movie does eventually i finish it. often i must re-read parts, like deathrabbit.
often when i wake up at night i utilize the fatigue caused for me by reading to get back to sleep.
i dig westerns and spy intrigue; done read all l'amour and kelton's work. the best story i ever read is non-fiction. it is pappilion by henri charriere.
the movie would need 10 hours to tell this man's incredible tale. it is incredible, and a great read.
Posted 25 April 2013 - 11:51 AM
I really like Sci-Fi, and have been wanting to explore Dan Simmons, more Philip K Dick, and Ray Bradbury, as well as Dune, but I just never feel like doing because I know it will be a struggle and I'll just end up hating myself for being stupid. I used to be an intellectual. I guess that's beyond me now.
Posted 25 April 2013 - 12:39 PM
Posted 25 April 2013 - 02:28 PM
I have a bunch of Barnes and Nobles gift cards, and I intend one day soon to use them to purchase an encyclopedia set and give myself an 18 month deadline to read it A-Z. Now that I'm feeling better, I'm realizing how rusty my sphere of knowledge has gotten. I forgot who Vasco DeGama was today for goodness sake!
Posted 25 April 2013 - 03:04 PM